A Message to the Men That Received My Love
Once I was able to let go of my ego, some words needed to be said.
I’ve had a lot of time to think lately. It seems like when I’m left alone with my own thoughts I usually think about two things. My career and my love life. Two things that always seem to be constantly struggling. I’ve had my fair share of experiences with a couple of people. Each of them unique in their own way and always giving me a lesson to learn. Some ending on better terms than others, and some taking me a good amount of time to heal and move on from. Now that I am removed from these experiences and ready to start a new journey, I’d like to get some things off my chest.
I think it’s natural for us to be confused when someone breaks up with us. We think we are a catch and we meshed well with this person so why wouldn’t it work? We should think we are a catch but also have to realize not everyone will think of us that way. Which is okay, but that means that person isn’t for us. We might be thinking, “they always come back,” and maybe they will wake up one day and realize what they lost. But the reality is, if someone didn’t truly know you or value you in the first place, how can they miss someone they never were truly invested in or appreciated? They might come back, but often times it ends in the same result. I think it’s common for us to have an ego that we are the ones that got away. But once I let go of my ego, it was easier to accept the reality that these men never actually took the time to really appreciate me. They were okay with that, and now so am I.
To the men who received my love,
I hope you find the person that is right for you. But I hope you do realize the things you did wrong in the past so you don’t make someone else feel this way. I hope you acknowledge your daddy issues and seek help so you don’t bring that in relationships. It’s easily detected and does not go unnoticed. Some work needs to be done but that is okay. But put in the work if you want to be better and attract bette relationships. I hope if you really don’t like a girl you stop lying to yourself and don’t waste her time. It’s okay to be alone. Don’t make her believe there is a potential future when there is not. And when she holds you accountable please stop gaslighting her to try and justify your actions. You know when you are wrong, accept it. I hope you actually try to get to know someone beyond looks and being nice. People have a lot to offer, and once you put in the time to get to know someone you might find something beautiful. It’s okay to date around to find your person but its not okay using people and stringing them along to be selfish and get what you want. People have feelings and it affects them a lot more than you think.
In this episode of the So-Called Oreos Podcast, the hosts get a little personal and reveal the epiphanies they have had about dating. The group discusses how they really feel about the “self love” talk before explaining their top romantic moments and their words for the boys that they have loved before.
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